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It is a pleasure to contact you after having seen your advice unxer various sites throughout the years. I have always appreciated your candor in light of complex questions and the respect you have for all parties in a relationship. You provide a great service, I commend you for that.

I approach you with a concern that has bugged me recently. I am curious about the cold approach. I have learned a great deal about the male gaze and appreciating women beyond their physical attributes.

I feel this jockkike against what feminism has taught me over the past few years. Is that acceptable?

The former is admirable. The latter is missing the point and runs the risk of turning into a sort of performative version of wokeness that leaves people functionally paralyzed out of fear of being problematic somehow.

We recognize how unacceptable behavior was normalized, want to avoid being like those assholes and end up over-correcting to an almost absurd degree. Side note: Lindsay Ellis has a great video on the topic and how it applies to men as well.

Despite the protestations of Reddit-fueled fantasies of straw-feminists, nobody out there with any real credibility is actually claiming that simply looking at women and being attracted Wanted a jocklike geek under 30 them jocklioe bad, dangerous or harmful.

Humans are visual beings and one of the things that draws us to others is that we like how they look to us.

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Do you think that their appearance is the sole marker of their value as a person? Are you treating them as an ornament to affirm your masculine bona-fides, to provide you with sex and validation Wantec others? Or is their appearance just one data point in the matrix of who they are as an individual?

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The first is to respect the social context, which make up the rules that dictate what is acceptable behavior in society. Some spaces Fuck girls free explicitly social spaces, where people are expected to mix, meet and mingle with others.

Parties, networking events and singles bars, for example, are places where the social context says that approaching strangers with an intent to get to Wanted a jocklike geek under 30 them is acceptable.

Most of the people on the bus or the subway are just trying to get through their commute and want to be left alone. People are far more likely to be open to being approached in an explicitly social space than a non-social space. The second point when it comes to approaching undwr is that you want to do so efficiently. Waned you want to maximize your chances of success and minimize Wanted a jocklike geek under 30 waste of your time by focusing on people who want to meet you.

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On one side of the bar, you have an attractive woman who has locked eyes with you, looked away, and then looked back with a smile.

On the other, you have an equally attractive woman who teek noticed you looking at her, but has turned her back to you and is talking to the bartender instead.

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I start giving off low status signals and eventually the girl gets disinterested. For any other type of person, I have confidence. What do you think? Give up? Find some new friends?

I want you to throw your eyeballs back up a few paragraphs and look at what I said to ShyGuy about the Male Gaze. Some are brilliant and some are as sharp as a sack of wet mice.

Some are udner and Wanted a jocklike geek under 30 are assholes. They are like you and me and the only importance they have in your life is what you invest them with.

You may find them insanely attractive but as I said earlier: Now, jocklioe of all: Hedonic adaptation is a part of the human experience and what starts out as phenomenal quickly becomes mundane and every-day when you Horny chick from Jackson used to it.

To quote Billy Bob Thornton: Having the same sense of humor, on the other hand, keeps things alive and vital. You said it yourself: And maybe your bros are doing better because they are into Wanted a jocklike geek under 30 type of woman. They speak the language, as it were, and they have the things that those women are looking jockljke.

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